finally i found the story i was looking forr! Taddaaaa!!
A student asked a teacher, “What is love?” The teacher said, “In order to answer your question, go to the wheat field, choose the biggest wheat and come back. But the rule is this - you can go through them only once and cannot turn back to pick.” The student went to the field and passed through first row. He saw one big wheat, but he wondered if there might a bigger one later. Then, he saw another bigger one… But he thought there might be an even bigger one waiting for him. Later, when he finished more than half of the wheat field, he started to realise that the wheat was no longer as big as the previous ones he saw. He now knew he has missed the biggest one and he regretted deeply Hence , he ended up going back to the teacher with empty hands. The teacher told him, “This is love… You keep looking for a better partner, but when later you realise it, you have already missed that person…” “What is marriage then?” the student asked. The teacher said, “In order to answer your question, go to the corn field and choose the biggest corn and come back. But the same rule applies - you can go through them only once and cannot turn back to pick.” The student went to the corn field, and this time he was careful not to repeat the previous mistake. When he reached the middle of the field, he picked out one medium corn that he felt he was satisfied with, and went back to the teacher. The teacher told him, “This time you managed to bring back a corn. You looked for one that is just nice, and you had faith and believed that this was the best one you could get. This is marriage.”
We waste time looking for the perfect lover, instead of creating the perfect love.
